“Your sin is bigger than my sin!” We believe this statement is true! We won’t admit! We rarely confess it! But we subconsciously believe it and our behavior confirms it! When we sin against someone, we feel that the affect of our sin is as harmless as a tiny mosquito bite…it’s harmless at best and a nuisance at worst. But when someone sins against us, we act as if we we’ve been swarmed with mosquitoes carrying the West Nile Virus.
Why are we so offended by other people’s sin but are rarely moved by our own sin? It could be that we are so self-absorbed and selfish that we formulate enormous blind spots to the affects of our sin. This is a form of pride! It could also be that when we sin against others, we don’t feel the sting or the pain of it, but when they sin against us, we feel the ugly painful sting!
A friend of mine recently was deeply offended by a sin his wife committed against him. After talking to both of them further, I found out he was committing the same sin against her. It was mind baffling to me to listen to him justify his own sin and magnify her sin. Why do we do that? Because we truly believe that “your sin is bigger than my sin!”
Jesus said in Mathew 7:3-5: Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, “Let me take the speck out of your eye,” when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plant out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
So the next time we are tempted to point to the sin of others, let’s ask God to reveal our own sin to us. We can ask God to show us the plank in our eyes and to own up to it. Let’s also ask God to give us hearts of compassion towards those who offend us rather than be filled with anger and bitterness towards them. We can ask God for wisdom to know what to do and how to respond to the situation rather than acting on our own instincts and hurts.
Lord, please help me to see the plank in my own eye. Help me to see my sin for what it is and help me to surrender it to you to deal with it. Help to have a forgiving and loving heart towards those who offend me. In Jesus Name I pray…Amen!