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A Beauty or a Blob

Men have questions in their minds that need to be answered just like women. Typically, women are emotional and very expressive, We can express and verbalize how we feel to help men understand what we need from them. Men, however, are not quite emotional or expressive. For a woman to know her man’s true heart, she must dig deep. Ruth helps us understand what questions men have in their minds and how to answer them with out words and actions…

1. Will you respect me? When Boaz affirmed and blessed Ruth, she responded by falling flat on her face in front of him (2:10). That is a sign of humility and respect. When he told her he would settle the matter between him and the other Kinsmen-redeemer, she respected him by letting him lead her (3:12). She was very respectful of him.

2. Will you desire me? Ruth took the time to make her self look and smell pretty (3:1-3). She made herself available by going to him while he was alone and telling him she wanted him to marry her (3:9). Boaz was thrilled that she chose him over all the other guys (3:10).

3. Will you appreciate me? When Boaz prayed for Ruth, she told him that he comforted her and spoken kindly to her (2:13). She noticed the good things he was doing and she affirmed them. She appreciated him and what he did for her by telling her mother-in-law (2:19, 21). She bragged about him to others!

4. Will you support me? Ruth went to Boaz and lay at his feet (3:7). When he told her to stay with him, she stayed (3:14). When he told her it was time to leave, she left 3:14). She didn’t argue or complain. She complied.

Ruth was a woman who loved God well and loved her mother-in-law well. She was focused on serving and being diligent. When the opportunity came with Boaz, she was affirming, appreciative, respectful and showed interest in him. She was a keeper! So what does this mean for us?

If you are a single woman and you are interested in a guy, notice what he does and respond by appreciating, affirming, and respecting him. Let him know you are interested in him (with purity) so he can pursue you.

If you are a married women, ask yourself if you are respecting supporting and appreciating your man. Are you initiating intimacy with him or do you dread when he approaches you romantically? If you are not initiating, ask God to help you with that area of your life! Ladies, the choice is yours to be a beauty in his eyes or a blob.

If you are single guy, take notice of how a woman appreciates, supports, and shows you interest. If she does these things, she’s a beauty. If she doesn’t, she’s a blob and you need to keep looking!

If you are married, notice how your wife meets those needs in your life. If she doesn’t do these things, pray God will open her eyes to respect, appreciate and respond to you postively. God wants that for you too!


A Stud or A Dud

We all have questions in our hearts and minds. You know what I’m talking about…those deep questions we are too afraid to ask and but desperately need the people we love to answer for us. The book of Ruth in the Bible is not just a great love story. It a story of questions answered and resolved in the hearts and minds of Ruth and Boaz. Ruth had questions in her heart she needed Boaz to answer and Boaz was faithful enough to answer them positively. Here are five questions that Ruth needed Boaz to answer:

1. Will you notice me? When Boaz came into the field, he noticed a new person with his employees (2:5). He not only noticed her but took notice of her love and dedication to her mother-in-law.

2. Will you encourage and affirm me? Boaz did not hesitate to encourage Ruth by affirming her character. He affirmed her by telling her how much he loved her trust in God and her dedication to her mother-in-law (2:11). He even affirmed her by praying for her (2:12)

3. Will you value me? She came into his field as a foreigner but he elevated her above his own personal gain. He made sure she took more grain with her at the cost of his profit or bottom line. He told his employees to leave grains behind so she can take it (2:16). He even elevated her above his own employees. He told her she can drink from the water his employees were drinking and when it was time to eat, he invited her to his table (2:14). Boaz valued her above his profit, his work, and his employees.

4. Will you protect me? Boaz told Ruth not to go to another field so she would not be exposed to danger (2:13). He told his employees not to insult her (2:16), and he prayed for her (2:12).. Boaz protected Ruth physically, emotionally and spiritually.

5. Will you provide for me? If you know the story at all, you know how Boaz made sure she had plenty of grain to take with her. He even provided for her her meals while she was in his field.

The amazing thing about this man is he did all these things for Ruth BEFORE they were even talking about marriage. He did all these things for her without expecting anything in return. He was selfless, caring and kind before he thought he would get anywhere with her. So what does that mean for us?

If you are a single guy wanting to woo the heart of a girl, start by answering these questions for her before you get married. If you are a married man, make sure you take time to answer these questions for your wife on a constant and consistent basis through your words and actions. She needs those questions answered in her mind even if she is married to you. If you answer these questions to a married or single woman positively, she’ll decide you are a STUD. If you answer these questions negatively, she’ll write you off a DUD.

If you are a single woman, pay attention to how this guy treats you. A friend of mine once told me that I need to look for two things in a guy: Does he love God well? And does he love me well? If the answer is no, move on! If the answer is yes, he’s a keeper!

If you are a married woman and your husband answers these questions for you positively, thank God for him and thank him for it! If he doesn’t, pray he would be sensitive to your needs and that he will realize how you need these questions answered. God is in the restoring and healing business, do not give up on your marriage or your man!

Boaz was a STUD! He was an ordinary guy that knew how to cherish his woman! Ruth saw him as a STUD so much so that she threw herself on him. I’m sure most guys would not mind their wives to do that for them 🙂